Relational Depth in Counselling
Relational depth in counselling is a term used to explain the deep connection between counsellor and client that can be present within a therapeutic relationship.
Working at relational depth can really help clients to move forward within the process of change and growth.
Within this article you will:
- Define working at relational depth
- Explore the value of working with relational depth in psychotherapy
- Discuss how relational depth can be achieved
- Explore personal development with regard to relational depth
What is relational depth?
Relational depth was first developed through the work of Mearns and Cooper.
Mearns first wrote about the intense moments of contact between clients and therapists in 1996 and used the term ‘relational depth’ to describe these.
Here is a useful definition of relational depth.
Working at relational depth in psychotherapy
Relational depth can be found in Carl Rogers' theory and key ideas where he discusses the relationship between counsellor and client being of key importance within the therapeutic alliance.
Mearns and Cooper discuss relational depth in counselling as a profound connectedness that can enable clients to enter into edge of awareness discoveries, with the therapist being involved in clients’ innermost thoughts and feelings.
Relational depth can invite clients to access their existential selves, without the ‘masks/armour’ that they may present to the rest of the world.
How working with relational depth can help us?
Relational depth involves such a deep connection, where the client can feel able to access every part of themselves in a safe, nurturing environment.
This aligns with Rogers’ core conditions. Clients can feel wholly and completely accepted by ‘another’, paving the way for them to be able to accept themselves.
Relational depth cannot be ‘planned out’ and is not a ‘strategy’, rather, something that occurs between individuals as an organic experience. It occurs moment to moment, within the here and now.
What has research into relational depth shown?
Research undertaken, notably by Cooper, Knox, McMillan, Mcleod and Wiggins indicates that relational depth has enabled clients to feel a more authentic connection to themselves and to others around them.
Clients often describe ‘pivotal moments’ within the therapeutic relationship occurring as a result of relational depth, which empowers and enables therapeutic growth and change.
Levels of relationsl depth
Relational depth cannot be ‘planned out’ and is not a ‘strategy’, rather, something that occurs between individuals as an organic experience. It occurs moment to moment, within the here and now.
Relational depth is likely to be experienced in moments/enduring moments, rather than full sessions spent working in this way.
How can relational depth be achieved?
Personal development for counsellors is essential in order for relational depth to occur.
Counsellors must be comfortable and accepting of all parts of themselves, in order to be accepting of all parts of another.
The importance of personal development (indeed in all areas of counselling) cannot be underestimated here.
Key aspects of relational depth in counselling and psychotherapy
Evidence has shown that relational depth has been achieved and experienced by clients when therapists are:
- Warm
- Personal
- Genuine
- Human
Relational depth may not be reached when therapists are:
- Asserting control over clients.
- Meeting their own needs within the process.
- Have pre-existing hopes for the client.
- Attempts to ‘fix’ the client.
- Focuses on theory and counselling skills, rather than present moment experiencing.
- Spends time attempting to formulate responses/suggestions to problems.
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References
Sanders et al (2012) The Tribes of the Person-Centred Nation. Ross-on-Wye, PCCS Books.